BIBLICAL FULFILLMENT
Some Facts About Growing Up
I am Jessie Mills, Ph.D.
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LESSON TWO

 

SOME FACTS ABOUT GROWING UP

 

INTRODUCTION:

Most of us have heard the statement: "Oh, why don't you grow up."

This statement is usually made to those who are acting childish in their conduct. No one likes to be told this. But the fact remains that many people do need "to grow up". We frequently hear middle aged people talk about growing old gracefully. Why not grow UP gracefully?

When one is seriously thinking about marriage, he must ask himself:

"Am I grown up enough to accept all the responsibilities that go with marriage?"

I. HOW WE GROW UP

A. CHRONOLOGICALLY:

1. Growing up physically has its compensations:

a. New clothes, stronger, more grown-up

b. Mental development, physical size, etc.

c. There are some disadvantages:  Awkward and gangly, fun poked at, clothes do not fit.  Mental, social, and emotional adjustment.

d. It's God's plan for us to develop in time. We will be able to face these difficult periods if we understand this.

B. SOCIALLY:

1. When one is very, very young, he has 4 dominant characteristics:

a. Dependence: (Upon adults for provisions, attention, food, clothes, protection from harm, etc.)

b. He is a passive recipient: (A little "gimme", accepting everything that is done for him as a matter of course, gives nothing in return.)

c. Eager to learn: (He is busy, investigating, asking questions, etc.)

d. Very self-centered: (It is "mine or me first" every time.)

(1) ADOLESCENT PROBLEMS: Since adolescence is the stage before adulthood is reached, how close to these goals should the adolescent reach?

(a) Do you have self-reliance versus dependence?

(b) Have you a spirit of learning? Ambitious, ready to start at the "foot of the ladder and work up?"

(c) Are you an active contributor? Cook, sew, can make a garden, visit the sick, teach others God's word, assist in personal work program of church, meet people from all walks of life, etc?

C. EMOTIONALLY:

1. Emotions are very important. They are said to give color to life. However, one who is emotionally unstable is hard to live with. (Those who laugh or cry easily, have hysterics; elated one moment and depressed the next.)

2. The Love Emotion: (goes through different stages)

a. Infantile

Completely self-centered. Then recognizes his mother or the one who takes care of him. A little later, the father is included.

b. School level (ages 6-12)

Girls have their secret clubs, boys their gangs.

They have practically nothing to do with each other. They just want to have fun, thrills and excitement.

c. Early adolescence (Junior High)

Hero worship stage. "A crush". Then a brief "rough house" period; boys pull the girls' hair, girls snatch boys' cap, etc.

d. Senior High stage

Fall in and out of love rapidly. Puppy love, people call it. Become very interested in own personal appearance.

e. Adult (ages 19-up)

Select marriage partner with more wisdom. Life-long affection for one person of opposite sex. (In U.S. the medium for men is 25 years of age, women 22 years of age).

3. Other Emotions:

a. Fear:

Learn to be cautious, neither timid nor foolhardy, not reckless, "thrill-type". Fear prompts a fighting spirit ...fear of failure, poverty, etc.

b. Anger:

Aggressiveness; pugnacity. Develop the adult characteristic of "righteous indignation". Fight to right some social, moral wrong. Lawyers fight to win their cases; physicians and nurses fight to save lives of their patients. Christians should fight to save souls from perdition.

c. Sensitiveness:

"Touchy" feelings are easily hurt. The adult level of sensitiveness is desirable •• considerate of feelings of others. Kindness to children, even your enemies. (Peacemakers, endurance of persecution, etc. Matthew 5:9ff)

 

CONCLUSION

The maturity that one needs in order to be a good husband or wife comes only through continued growth. One of the most difficult tasks of ministers and marriage counselors is to persuade people to TAKE TIME, TIME TO GROW, TIME TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON, TIME TO FALL IN LOVE INTELLIGENTLY, AND COMPLETELY, AND TIME TO BECOME THE RIGHT PERSON.

Above all else; as you grow in the above ways, be sure to grow in your understanding of what God can mean in your life. Learn the privilege and power of prayer. Study God's word and build its truth and ideals and principles into your daily life. Grow as Jesus grew "in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men". (Luke 2:52).

 

QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION:

 

1. "Oh why don't you ____________ up."

 

2. This statement is usually made to those who are acting ______________________________.

 

3. We hear middle aged people talk about ____________________ gracefully.

 

4. Why not ____________________ gracefully?

 

5. Before marriage we should ask ourselves, "Am I ____________________ enough?"

 

6. List three (3) areas we grow up in:

 

a. ____________________         b. ____________________         c. ____________________

 

7. Are there compensations for growing up physically?   _____ Yes  _____ No

 

a. What are the advantages? ________________________________________________

 

b. What are some of the disadvantages? _______________________________________

 

8. List four (4) characteristics of the very, very young:

 

a. ___________________________________________________________________

 

b. ___________________________________________________________________

 

c. ___________________________________________________________________

 

d. ___________________________________________________________________

 

9. List the Three (3) goals you must reach from adolescence to adulthood.

 

a. ___________________________________________________________________

 

b. ___________________________________________________________________

 

c. ___________________________________________________________________

 

10. Emotions are ____________________ important.

 

11. When one has an emotional problem it is ____________________ to live ____________________them.

 

12. List the five (5) stages that the love emotion goes through.

 

a. _________________________         b. _________________________

 

c. _________________________         d. _________________________

 

e. _________________________

 

 

13. What are the other three (3) emotions?

 

a. ________________________         b. ________________________         c. _______________________

 

 

14. The _________________ that one needs in order to be a _________________ husband or wife  comes

 

      only ________________ continued ____________________.

 

15. What is one of the most difficult tasks for ministers?__________________________________________

 

__________________________________________________________________________________

 

16. We need to be sure we ____________________ in our understanding of what ____________________

 

can _______________ in our lives. .

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